Most people who know me, at some point or other, have heard me frequently say "our words have power!"
In Scripture, God spoke and it came to be. It bore fruit. "Let there be light!" And there was. And it was good. The whole world came to be because God spoke. The Word, His word, took on flesh. It brought life.
In marriage, the spoken words of love in the vows of the bride and groom, through their act of self-gift, also take on flesh. It also bears life. We too in our daily lives have power behind the words we speak to either bring about life or death. We can build up or tear down with our words.
"The tongue has the power of life and death."-Proverbs 18:21
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29
When I was a young girl, I had confided in a girlfriend about something that was personal for me (probably a crush or something!) and I asked her not to tell anyone. I later discovered that this person had told our other friends and I was devastated. In that moment, I promised myself I would never do that to someone when they spoke to me in confidence.
That experience however, as painful as it was to learn at such a young age, taught me some really important things and helped me to realize that when someone confides in us or if we hear something that isn't ours to share, then we need to take it seriously. Trust is one of the most important elements in any kind of relationship and once broken it is very difficult to restore.
Something I try to always keep in the forefront of my mind during my day, and am always begging Jesus to help me with, is for the grace to let my words bring life. I've learned to ask myself 3 questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it kind?
3. Is it necessary?
I'm not perfect at it. But like all of you, I'm a work in progress! Let's all strive today to let our words be life-giving! Live love!
P. S. I would love to hear what you all have found helpful in the fight to always speak words that are life-giving! What has been helpful for you? What are some tricks you use in order to not participate in gossip, or to make sure to keep someone's confidence? We are all in this together!