As women, we can be overwhelmed by a variety of different insecurities.
One definition of insecurity is, “uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.” It’s synonyms include lack of confidence, self-doubt, uncertainty, and nervousness. Our insecurities are the result of many different things: past experience, measure of self-worth, our desires, comparison, etc. In short, our insecurity comes from our fallen nature! As Catholic women, we must find freedom from our insecurities through placing our security and confidence in the Lord.
As a starting point to becoming free in the Lord, lets begin by identifying how a couple insecurities play out in our lives.
Vulnerability: As women, we can be so afraid to open our hearts and be vulnerable with each other. Maybe this is from a wounded trust, fear of what someone will think, or our being judged in the past. However, taking small steps towards sharing openly with people we trust is extremely freeing. It can even be as simple as asking someone to pray for our specific intention.
Relationships: As a high school gal, this is a huge one. If we try to make a man our “all,” we are never going to be secure. It actually hurts our relationships when we transfer God’s role to another person, for only HE can be our all. Sometimes (or often!), we’re tempted to seek a relationship or a guy’s attention to feel secure. Instead, focus on being pursued by the Lord while recognizing young men as friends and brothers in Christ. As a practical application of this in my life, every time I see a “potential” boyfriend, I try to think of him as being a friend in Christ. If the Lord has more in store for me regarding this young man - then that’s in His hands!
The Future: “For I know well the plans I have in mind for you, says the LORD, plans for your welfare, not for woe! plans to give you a future full of hope.” Jeremiah 29:11. This is one of my absolute favorite passages in the Bible. How does this passage speak to YOU and calm your insecurities about the future?
Our faults: “We are not the sum of our weaknesses and failures: we are the sum of the father’s love for us...”-St. John Paul II. I definitely know the fear of letting others see my faults. We’re afraid they’ll think less of us when we acknowledge our imperfection. Actually, we can use our weaknesses to grow closer to God, to build each other up, and even as even special gifts. Who are the friends who will walk with you in your weakness and build you up into a better character?
Identify your insecurities. Know how to combat and face them honestly. Spend time in Adoration, soaking in the Love and security which only God can offer. Develop authentic friendships with other young women. The deepest and truest friendships in my life are those which center around Christ.
Most importantly, do you believe, live, and breath your feminine identity as daughter of God?
No matter what we’ve been through, no matter our past, no matter what we or others thing about us, no matter our struggles - our identity will always be the same. It is something we have to constantly remind ourselves of. Believing deep within our hearts who we are in the Lord is one of the most effective ways to combat insecurity.
“The LORD is with me; I am not afraid...Better to take refuge in the LORD than to put one’s trust in mortals. Better to take refuge in the LORD than to put one’s trust in princes.” Psalm 118: 6, 8-9.
Be Secure in Him!
Olivia is a rising junior in high school with love for learning and understanding authentic femininity. She delights in being able to share her thoughts on this topic, and hopes all of us can put them to heart.